Healing From Religious Trauma
“No one’s ever sat me down and taught me what empathy is or why it matters more than power or patriotism or religious faith.” ― Zak Ebrahim “Christ the man died long ago, …
Self-Care You Can Actually Afford
Self-care you can actually afford Now more than ever, we all need to be taking care of ourselves. We are 6 months into a pandemic that does not seem to be slowing down, at least …
Here Is What To Do When You Are Out Of Choices
Here Is What To Do When You Are Out Of Choices A woman in her mid-60s sits in front of me. “I don’t have any choices.” She tells me. “There is nothing I can do. …
The Tasks of Grief
What Is Grief? We tend to think of grief as a sadness related to death or loss. Grief is actually defined as a reaction to a significant loss. While this loss can be a death, …
The Danger of Emotional Reasoning
Cognitive Distortion Series In this series of blog posts I am going to cover common cognitive distortions aka problem thinking or thinking errors. The way that we think affects our world more than we usually …
How to Know If You Should Get a Divorce
Does Getting a Divorce Mean That You Failed? When I first see a couple for relationship or marriage counseling, I ask them why they want to save the relationship. It seems like an obvious question, …
What is EMDR Therapy
What is EMDR Therapy? You may have heard about EMDR or “Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing” therapy before. It has been around since in 1989 but it is becoming more and more popular. Initially it …
Learning to Live with Uncertainty
Making Friends with the Unknown There has been a lot happening in the world for the majority of 2020. Much is uncertain. I’ve noticed all the commercial advertisements love to reference “these uncertain times” to …
Don’t Get Trapped in All or Nothing Thinking
All or Nothing Thinking (also called Black and White Thinking) All or nothing thinking (sometimes referred to as black and white thinking but is the same) is where you see things as all one way …
What You Need to Know About Childhood Emotional Neglect
What You Need to Know About Childhood Emotional Neglect Whether you have heard about childhood emotional neglect before or this is your first time hearing the term, you need to learn about it! Many people …